Most of your life, you meet all kinds of people. Individuals that accept and encourage you, and show toxic people signs. Individuals that destroy, devalue you and show We don't realize negative people in our life and think of it as rather cruel or unsettling to just kick someone out of our life, we believe they are human and make mistakes which can be forgiven.
But what if those mistakes continue non-stop?
Understanding that life is not a bed of roses and just because someone has declared to be your 'friend', doesn't mean for you to excuse them. Toxic people can cut you up from the inside, they throw your self confidence to the ground and drag it to the point you feel hollow, you shut yourself down and feel uncomfortable during gatherings, you stop trusting people and just distance yourself. If you are stuck with a toxic friend or person in general and cannot find a way out, then you need to be brave. Yes, braver than you are now. This might seem a simple enough solution but to implement it, is the hardest.
Speak your mind. If those 'toxic' people ridicule you, try to cut you off, diminish your existence, laugh at you or make fun of you in front of groups, undermine your talent and stop you from prospering. Speak. Let them know, that you do not tolerate such behaviors, yes this might end up in a lot of drama but it would save you the hassle.
If you'd want to avoid the above step then, try to distance yourself from them. Be or associate yourself with them but start isolating yourself at the same time. Make yourself invisible in the group or stay quiet and pay less attention. It is highly likely, they won't focus too much on you and gradually drift away.
Family can be toxic and you are allowed to dislike or call them out
It is heavily emphasized on how family is supposed to be the only resort and no friend or companion could possibly take their place. This doesn't work out when your family undermines you or ridicules you. If your sister thinks of you as inferior, your mother complains about your goals or your uncle thinks of you as a nuisance. Escaping a toxic family can be difficult. You are under no obligation to sit there and withstand just because they are your 'family'
The children growing up in toxic households, suffer from anxiety, personality issues and a low self esteem. They consider themselves as what their family emphasizes on them. It is better if your family members are showing signs of being pessimistic that you call them out and have a proper talk or consult your friends or acquaintance that you are close with, but if you bear it, then in the long run it will only hurt and collapse your existence.
Lastly, do not stoop to their level.
If you think that you have no other choice but to join them or you should behave like them just so you can cope with your inner devils created by them then it is better if you just fight back and put your relationship to an end. Yes, this might cause you to be emotionally exhausted but at least, you wouldn't get to hurt others and finally free yourself from such confinements.
But what if those mistakes continue non-stop?
Understanding that life is not a bed of roses and just because someone has declared to be your 'friend', doesn't mean for you to excuse them. Toxic people can cut you up from the inside, they throw your self confidence to the ground and drag it to the point you feel hollow, you shut yourself down and feel uncomfortable during gatherings, you stop trusting people and just distance yourself. If you are stuck with a toxic friend or person in general and cannot find a way out, then you need to be brave. Yes, braver than you are now. This might seem a simple enough solution but to implement it, is the hardest.
Speak your mind. If those 'toxic' people ridicule you, try to cut you off, diminish your existence, laugh at you or make fun of you in front of groups, undermine your talent and stop you from prospering. Speak. Let them know, that you do not tolerate such behaviors, yes this might end up in a lot of drama but it would save you the hassle.
If you'd want to avoid the above step then, try to distance yourself from them. Be or associate yourself with them but start isolating yourself at the same time. Make yourself invisible in the group or stay quiet and pay less attention. It is highly likely, they won't focus too much on you and gradually drift away.
Family can be toxic and you are allowed to dislike or call them out
It is heavily emphasized on how family is supposed to be the only resort and no friend or companion could possibly take their place. This doesn't work out when your family undermines you or ridicules you. If your sister thinks of you as inferior, your mother complains about your goals or your uncle thinks of you as a nuisance. Escaping a toxic family can be difficult. You are under no obligation to sit there and withstand just because they are your 'family'
The children growing up in toxic households, suffer from anxiety, personality issues and a low self esteem. They consider themselves as what their family emphasizes on them. It is better if your family members are showing signs of being pessimistic that you call them out and have a proper talk or consult your friends or acquaintance that you are close with, but if you bear it, then in the long run it will only hurt and collapse your existence.
Lastly, do not stoop to their level.
If you think that you have no other choice but to join them or you should behave like them just so you can cope with your inner devils created by them then it is better if you just fight back and put your relationship to an end. Yes, this might cause you to be emotionally exhausted but at least, you wouldn't get to hurt others and finally free yourself from such confinements.
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