All of us need something to depend on. No matter how tough and strong willed one would demonstrate themselves in front of audiences, they are always supported and backed up by millions of coincidences and incidents that put them at that pedestal. Nothing we do can be done alone nor is it done alone, even if we think it might have been.
If you're a person that enjoys their own company, still there would have been times in your life where you might have felt that what if a special someone was here with me?
Living in the shadows and cutting away human interaction can be deadly and not as fun and relatable as these memes hope to turn it out into. We can lose our sense of self as we diminish our interactions with society, we start getting confused on how others think and that further contributes to us just looking the other way more. You also start developing symptoms of stress and anxiety
Compromise
Now, this clarification or more like elaboration is for individuals that cannot seem to digest another person's views and seem to distance themselves from every single individual that might be a bit 'different' than them.
Yes, if someone has entirely different views from you and you know that it might be difficult for you to get on with them, then I believe the right decision would be to find new people but if you end up repeating this process for individuals that even slightly differ then you are in for some bad news.
By indulging in such a practice, you not only isolate yourself but you lose your chances of making a like minded friend that you so solely desire. After that, you end up distancing yourself out of habit and that leads to nothing but discomfort.
Compromise and compensate, understand that the world might not revolve around you and all sorts of people exist, through their point of view you might learn new things or habits and it could open a whole new world for you, but be sure to not support any kind of negative beliefs they might have, if so then the best option would be to cut off from them.
Do not fear
If you are are a person that usually fears communication and overthinks about every little situation that you have been in which ends up in you not being able to establish relationships with others, then I believe you might be a victim of loneliness (mostly in a mental way) and you are not willingly partaking in it.
Most the time, you might be categorized as shy or quiet but in reality you want to talk and interact but your inner voice ends up holding you back. You usually think of everything in this way: What is going to happen if they laugh? Will it screw up my confidence? Will I not be able to express myself anymore? That furthers the effect of stress that you might already be experiencing due to these questions.
Why even think of something that hasn't happened
If you are not a severe patient or victim of social anxiety but do have such questions popping up in your mind, hindering you then my advice is to focus on yourself but not in an extreme way.
Talk in front of a mirror, the situations that work so perfectly in your head practice them beforehand, don't expect others to behave like the way you imagine them to, all the negatives in your mind have about a slight percentage of happening.
Work your way bit by bit through it, you can't overcome loneliness overnight anyway.
I have elaborated on this issue more on my very first article that I wrote on self-confidence, it covers my past experiences and how I finally broke through, even though I still might waver a bit.
Don't let your past experience define you
You might have had an experience where someone would have stabbed you in the back, destroyed or betrayed your feelings and were just toxic overall, and you just cannot find the courage and patience to trust someone again.
For that experience, you completely confine yourself and become a victim of loneliness which eats you up everyday.
You want to improve and change yourself but you can't seem to have the guts because your past ends up binding you. Loneliness quotes your life as a disaster.
Let it be a path to a fruitful future
There are all sorts of people in this world, both negative and positive, don't let one define and shape who you are. Associate with people, if they don't like you then cut them off first, try to prioritize yourself and do not fear opening up. When you open up to people their initial reactions will determine who they actually are, even thought this might seem like grouping or categorizing.
Ultimately, all of the above said issues that result in solitude aren't unsolvable, you need to first work with yourself and then slowly apply it on others.
If you're a person that enjoys their own company, still there would have been times in your life where you might have felt that what if a special someone was here with me?
Living in the shadows and cutting away human interaction can be deadly and not as fun and relatable as these memes hope to turn it out into. We can lose our sense of self as we diminish our interactions with society, we start getting confused on how others think and that further contributes to us just looking the other way more. You also start developing symptoms of stress and anxiety
Compromise
Now, this clarification or more like elaboration is for individuals that cannot seem to digest another person's views and seem to distance themselves from every single individual that might be a bit 'different' than them.
Yes, if someone has entirely different views from you and you know that it might be difficult for you to get on with them, then I believe the right decision would be to find new people but if you end up repeating this process for individuals that even slightly differ then you are in for some bad news.
By indulging in such a practice, you not only isolate yourself but you lose your chances of making a like minded friend that you so solely desire. After that, you end up distancing yourself out of habit and that leads to nothing but discomfort.
Compromise and compensate, understand that the world might not revolve around you and all sorts of people exist, through their point of view you might learn new things or habits and it could open a whole new world for you, but be sure to not support any kind of negative beliefs they might have, if so then the best option would be to cut off from them.
Do not fear
If you are are a person that usually fears communication and overthinks about every little situation that you have been in which ends up in you not being able to establish relationships with others, then I believe you might be a victim of loneliness (mostly in a mental way) and you are not willingly partaking in it.
Most the time, you might be categorized as shy or quiet but in reality you want to talk and interact but your inner voice ends up holding you back. You usually think of everything in this way: What is going to happen if they laugh? Will it screw up my confidence? Will I not be able to express myself anymore? That furthers the effect of stress that you might already be experiencing due to these questions.
Why even think of something that hasn't happened
If you are not a severe patient or victim of social anxiety but do have such questions popping up in your mind, hindering you then my advice is to focus on yourself but not in an extreme way.
Talk in front of a mirror, the situations that work so perfectly in your head practice them beforehand, don't expect others to behave like the way you imagine them to, all the negatives in your mind have about a slight percentage of happening.
Work your way bit by bit through it, you can't overcome loneliness overnight anyway.
I have elaborated on this issue more on my very first article that I wrote on self-confidence, it covers my past experiences and how I finally broke through, even though I still might waver a bit.
Don't let your past experience define you
You might have had an experience where someone would have stabbed you in the back, destroyed or betrayed your feelings and were just toxic overall, and you just cannot find the courage and patience to trust someone again.
For that experience, you completely confine yourself and become a victim of loneliness which eats you up everyday.
You want to improve and change yourself but you can't seem to have the guts because your past ends up binding you. Loneliness quotes your life as a disaster.
Let it be a path to a fruitful future
There are all sorts of people in this world, both negative and positive, don't let one define and shape who you are. Associate with people, if they don't like you then cut them off first, try to prioritize yourself and do not fear opening up. When you open up to people their initial reactions will determine who they actually are, even thought this might seem like grouping or categorizing.
Ultimately, all of the above said issues that result in solitude aren't unsolvable, you need to first work with yourself and then slowly apply it on others.
Whoa it defines me. i'm lovin it. i'll be waiting for more. #BeyourselfEveryoneElseIsTaken <3
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