Some of us prefer socializing, some of us think of it as a bother while some of us cannot participate because of our inmost feeling holding us back. You meet a lot of people in your life, all of whom would bear different and distinct personalities.
Hanging out with people that differ from you can give you all sorts of insights and change your point of views that you hold towards this world, you might discover something completely unknown to you and it would open all sorts of doors but you also might get to hear some pessimistic or 'yuck' opinions, that mostly anyone would not agree with.
Anyways, everyone, well when I say everyone I might be generalizing but mostly everyone seems to have a 'shy' person within their group of friends or just close acquaintances. You try to talk with them but as they do not respond in the way you would expect them to and also seem to shut themselves eventually drifting away from the group so you give up trying to associate with them.
Sometimes, such people can feel out of place and think even if they do have something interesting to say, no one would like or react to it anyway. Try to not make it as if they are invisible, because just as much as your input and voice matters, theirs does too.
Talk with them, there might be a whole new world waiting to open
Okay, I know this might sound like I'm exaggerating but it's true. What if, that person might have similar interests as you but isn't good at expressing themselves so you never get to know, what if they are nice enough people to the point to stick around till the end when most of your so-called group ends up the other way?.
You need to realize that we focus and emphasize ourselves so much that we find every opportunity we can get to present ourselves as confident and believe that hanging out with the quiet kid will only be boring or too much 'work', half of the people I've met in my life believed in the latter, which is rather sad. There's nothing wrong with being focused on yourself but if it could be the reason for someone getting hurt then you need to take some things into evaluation.
You can be a source of comfort for them
You know, how when you're trying to talk or tell something and you get cut off and no one listens to you? It is a sad and crushing feeling right? makes you feel as if you're not worth it, causing you to completely shut down.
That's the reason why most of the quiet people in the group are quiet.
Their self-esteem can really touch the ground when they realize that people are either ignoring them or getting on well without them. That contributes to them shutting themselves down and limiting themselves from socializing.
What you can do for a person like that, is make them feel comfortable. Have a small talk with them, when everyone in the group would seem so busy with themselves, go up to that person and just have a chit chat. It could be about anything, how blue the sky looks today, what they ate for lunch, how hot the weather is at the moment, literally anything. Aside from the above tips, this particular article really touches deep down into the roots of all the appropriate measures that should be taken into account when dealing with a quiet or shy person.
If your simple words and a gentle conversation can lighten up their day, then why frown away from that?
One more thing, that should be taken into consideration is that, all of the above that I have mentioned is for individuals that want to communicate but just cannot do so, you can see their voice getting cut off or they might not be given too importance but keep in mind that there are people who stay quiet just because they like to. They feel as if they are more comfortable with not being the center of attention and just want to stay in a corner, as it can be a part of their personality.
Nothing wrong with wanting to have a conversation with them though, but there is a clear difference that can usually be seen between the two types. The above information, is mostly focused on people that dislike being quiet but due to past events, end up giving in to it.
Hanging out with people that differ from you can give you all sorts of insights and change your point of views that you hold towards this world, you might discover something completely unknown to you and it would open all sorts of doors but you also might get to hear some pessimistic or 'yuck' opinions, that mostly anyone would not agree with.
Anyways, everyone, well when I say everyone I might be generalizing but mostly everyone seems to have a 'shy' person within their group of friends or just close acquaintances. You try to talk with them but as they do not respond in the way you would expect them to and also seem to shut themselves eventually drifting away from the group so you give up trying to associate with them.
Talk with them, there might be a whole new world waiting to open
Okay, I know this might sound like I'm exaggerating but it's true. What if, that person might have similar interests as you but isn't good at expressing themselves so you never get to know, what if they are nice enough people to the point to stick around till the end when most of your so-called group ends up the other way?.
You need to realize that we focus and emphasize ourselves so much that we find every opportunity we can get to present ourselves as confident and believe that hanging out with the quiet kid will only be boring or too much 'work', half of the people I've met in my life believed in the latter, which is rather sad. There's nothing wrong with being focused on yourself but if it could be the reason for someone getting hurt then you need to take some things into evaluation.
You can be a source of comfort for them
You know, how when you're trying to talk or tell something and you get cut off and no one listens to you? It is a sad and crushing feeling right? makes you feel as if you're not worth it, causing you to completely shut down.
That's the reason why most of the quiet people in the group are quiet.
Their self-esteem can really touch the ground when they realize that people are either ignoring them or getting on well without them. That contributes to them shutting themselves down and limiting themselves from socializing.
What you can do for a person like that, is make them feel comfortable. Have a small talk with them, when everyone in the group would seem so busy with themselves, go up to that person and just have a chit chat. It could be about anything, how blue the sky looks today, what they ate for lunch, how hot the weather is at the moment, literally anything. Aside from the above tips, this particular article really touches deep down into the roots of all the appropriate measures that should be taken into account when dealing with a quiet or shy person.
If your simple words and a gentle conversation can lighten up their day, then why frown away from that?
One more thing, that should be taken into consideration is that, all of the above that I have mentioned is for individuals that want to communicate but just cannot do so, you can see their voice getting cut off or they might not be given too importance but keep in mind that there are people who stay quiet just because they like to. They feel as if they are more comfortable with not being the center of attention and just want to stay in a corner, as it can be a part of their personality.
Nothing wrong with wanting to have a conversation with them though, but there is a clear difference that can usually be seen between the two types. The above information, is mostly focused on people that dislike being quiet but due to past events, end up giving in to it.
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